Life as Lou

All The Lonely People + $125 Quickutz Prize Up For Grabs

  • October 31, 2010 12:37 pm

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I have a confession to make. I’m lonely.

I told myself that I was just fine, and I made myself jump in and be involved. I threw myself into house decorating and Christmas shopping (only 2 gifts left!), and I tried to be busy. Busy is good. Busy distracts you from your feelings. You can’t be all wrapped up in boo-hoo when you’re throwing yourself off as many commitment and project cliffs as is possible, because you simply don’t have time. However, as nice as the people you are being busy with are, there is a big difference between enjoying working together toward a common goal, and meeting each other for lunch and conversation because you like the person enough to make time on top of your obligations to hang out. In other words, its great to have people want things from you, but sometimes it would be great for them to just want you.

In the beginning of October I devised a plan. I told Chris that we were going to start having people over for dinner, maybe even once a week. We were going to back away from our computer screens, our books, our work and housekeeping and invite people and relationships into our lives instead. Since we are categorically antisocial, chronically worn out (that’s nicer than lazy), and both ranked two steps shy of autistic when we took that Autism Quotient test on facebook (clearly, a match made in heaven), this is a big deal for us. The only people we’ve have over for dinner in the past I’m-not-even-going-to-admit-to-the-number-of-years are missionaries because they need free food, and they have to pretend to like to us to get it. So we had a plan.

Immediately following this resolve, the kids got the flu and we spent nearly the entire month with someone viral and contagious in the house. This didn’t lend itself to a lot of social opportunities. You can’t say, “Hey! Come over! Share our food and our week long flu! YUM!” People don’t respond well to that. So, my plan fizzled.

At this point, I began doing a lot of shopping and finding excuses to make small trips. I had two 40% of coupons at Micheal’s every week because of the frequency of my visits, and I would drive over there and buy one $5 American Girl Craft item for $3 to add to Maggie’s Christmas gift of paper crafting supplies. Then I’d spend the $2 I saved on gas to get back home. I did this because there were people, real live human beings working at Micheal’s, and they would talk to me and be very nice! I could have a little chat about paper or glittery markers, or even a minute long chat with the cashier! HUMAN CONTACT!!!! WOW!!!!!!!! When you have that, it really doesn’t matter that you haven’t touched a craft project in almost a month and have no business going to a craft shop twice a week.

(Quick aside to the local scrap shop people, I didn’t start hanging around there twice a week because I didn’t want you guys to think I was a loser, now that I’ve outed myself, I might just drop by, loiter and need attention. Please tell me you have a crop scheduled in November).

This got so bad that when my favorite Target cashier jumped ship and started working at Wal-Mart, I not only recognized her, but knew to ask how her eight grandkids were doing. Bonnie is at least sixty-five, and she has the blowsiest bouffant wig I’ve ever seen. Paired with bright red lipstick, sparkly eyes and a gravelly smoker’s voice, she’s quite a character. I was very happy to learn that she had been waiting for a job to open up here ever since she moved here from Vegas, and it finally did! You see, she lives right across the street from good old Wally-World, so she can walk to work. Now she can stop working at Target and spending most of her paycheck on cab fare to get home. Clearly, with my insight into Bonnie’s personal life, we are BFFs.

Clearly, a life and friends would be an excellent thing for me to get, but you can’t buy those at Micheal’s, Target or Wal-Mart.

Now that we are non-viral, I am resolving to make efforts once again. While I already have the missionaries coming for dinner once this week, I might just invite someone else, maybe even for my birthday to eat cake! I also signed up for a craft night at church to make a cute craft that I already know how to make, and that doesn’t match my decor at all, but for the conversation and pre-cut supplies, I’m sure it is totally worth the seven bucks.

I would just like to take a moment and mention how grateful I am that all of you live in my little silver computer box, and that I can take you all with me wherever the Air Force sends us. Your comments do actually brighten my day, and I look forward to the feedback.

So, Birthday Bash give-a-way number two: QUICKUTZ!

Leave me a comment here and you just might win $125 worth of Quickutz. It will be a combo of dies from the last release and the one coming out this month (they’re awesome, trust me). If you don’t have a Quickutz die cut machine, I will hook you up with an Epic 6 and some sweet dies.

If you want an extra entry, go blog this or facebook or tweet. Then leave a second comment telling me what you did.

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Gabe? He’s just in this post because he’s cute. This is the first toddler I’ve ever gotten to enjoy leaves with before.

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175 Comments

  1. Isabel says:

    I can understand the feeling for some human contact, but really sometimes a full packed tube isn’t the answer .. all the best in this witching day :)

  2. Erika M says:

    I’ve become unemployed for the first time in my working life. I often find myself at loose ends and become melancholy and frustrated with myself. All of my friends were associated with the place where I worked and so I feel friendless at the moment.

  3. Erika M says:

    I posted your giveaway on Facebook

  4. Michelle Magana says:

    Girl you are too funny and crazy and just the way I like it. What a fab giveaway! Thanks. I guess we all get at that point at one time or another in our life. Atleast you try to talk to REAL people when you go out and not just be a HOBBIT. You are a great person and I know you will find new friends soon. Hope you have a wonderful bday!

  5. Caitlin Czirban says:

    I understand your lack of human contact~~ and if we lived near you we would come to dinner at your house everyweek! This is such an awesome giveaway!! My fingers are crossed!! I have zero dies and no machine- but hopefully Santa will bring me one this year…!!!!

  6. Ginny says:

    I have a quickutz & only the dies it came with. Happy bday & thanks for the giveaway!

  7. nichole says:

    Gabe is so cute! I wish we had those fall leaves.

  8. Nicole says:

    Happy Birthday! I can relate to a lot of what you wrote in your blog (even though I work outside of the home).

  9. Joyce says:

    < ![CDATA[LOL, you just described my house! But I can't believe for a second you are anti-social. I don't own a single QK, can you believe that.
    Happy Halloween and
    Happy Birthday!]]>

  10. Marti says:

    Totally can relate to the “no social contact” scenarios. I went through that when I stopped working full-time. It was brutal! Keep up the efforts and it’ll pay off though. I would love the QK goodies! Also, I have a Rev, but cannot seem to find a 12″ platform ANYWHERE. Do you happen to have any connections to someone who would sell me one? I desperately need one so I can cut out some alphas that require the 12″.

  11. I totally hear you!! I am happy to go where every the Airforce sends you (and thank you to you and your hubby again for your service to our Country. It means more than words could ever express) in the little silver box. I love that you know the woman who moved to Walmart it made me smile and just to show you, you are not alone Gabe is wearing the same shirt my Isaiah wore to school on Friday. Coincidence….. I think not! =) And since you are the reason I began thinking about a QK system I think you should totally pick me for the Epic and I will send you Salsa!

  12. < ![CDATA[I can relate sometimes! LOVE the pictures of the little cutie in the leaves! Thanks for a chance to win!
    P.S. I used to work in an office where I was pretty much the only person there--i always made the UPS man stay for a couple of sentences even though he was so busy! Now, I work part-time so I don't have as much trouble as when I stayed home full-time or worked solo... Good luck!]]>

  13. Sarah says:

    I can’t believe how grown up your baby is! Yikes! When did that happen? lol!

  14. Janette says:

    Love the pics! I wish I had some of my dd when she was small, in the leaves. I hear you about the social thing – I’ve been trying to get more into that, but it’s been difficult while we try to sell our house. Good luck, and will to continue to enjoy your blog!

  15. Gail S. says:

    I know how you feel about being lonely! Hopefully you will find someone to “hang out” with. Happy Birthday and thanks for a chance to win some great things!

  16. Sarah says:

    Happy birthday, Leah. Gabe is so photogenic – love the leaf pile photos.

  17. Bethany says:

    I can understand your feelings of lonliness. Thanks for a chance to win a great prize

  18. Kara says:

    I miss having leaves and I MISS YOU :) I have no more crafty friends left since you and Twila moved away I would love to Win this~

  19. joy says:

    I understand as well about being lonely . I have tried to get out and meet people but we are in such a small community it has been really hard. This giveaway is awesome I have always wanted one but have never been able to manage it into the finances.

  20. Zarah says:

    Wish I lived closer – I’d so come hang out at your place, and have lunch and all that stuff that I (too) miss having someone to do with. We’d have fun. Why do you have to live soooo far away, anyway?! ;)

  21. Kara says:

    I posted on FB, but you probably saw that:)

  22. Shannon M says:

    Hey Leah! I love reading your blog!! Happy Birthday–mine is on the 5th so we are almost birthday twins–hee hee!! My hubby and I are homebodies, too. I guess we should go take that Autism test–I bet we’re teetering on the edge–LOL!! Thanks for all the laughs (and the goodies!)

  23. Carolyn Lontin says:

    Super cute photos! I bet you made Bonnie’s day chatting it up with her – good for you! :)

  24. Casie says:

    < ![CDATA[Well Happy Birthday... Week!! lol

    Good luck getting out there and making some new friends!

    And what a great give away too!]]>

  25. Casie says:

    I also posted this on my Facebook page!

  26. Jennifer says:

    Happy Birthday Leah! I hope you start making some connections soon.

  27. Shannon M says:

    Hey Leah–I just linked you up on FB!! Thanks for the chance to win some awesome goodies!

  28. wendy says:

    I know how you feel. I went from being at work with 25 girls…3 of which i worked with from 7.30am till 6.30pm every day…to being on my own 5 days a week with nothing but the messages boards to keep me company…It is hard to put yourself out there with people…especially making new friends. I will go and facebook this now for you xxx

  29. sarah says:

    Hey you know im your cyber friend!! Im not just posting is becoz i want to win…of course i do, but wants to let you know, i is here 4 you’s, i is your cyber chick {{{hugs}}} x x

  30. WOW! we are so alike….I am the one that would be perfectly content sitting here in my house all day long just looking at this little silver box….I too am thankful for all of the wonderful people that I have met via my blog and facebook…Look me up if you ever want to chat via facebook etc….Hugs to you…and keep trying…they say having “human” contact is a positive thing….!!!!

  31. Bethany says:

    Leah! I’m glad I found your blog! Glad you are getting settled in. We just moved as well, so I know the feeling of trying to be social! I am excited about your giveaway and would love to have that fun machine.

  32. Tanya says:

    I love Bonnie!! I didn’t realize she moved to Walmart! ;) Sorry the whole flu bug really put a crimp in your plans – it’s no fun, and especially no fun when you are new and loney and just don’t have anyone to call and complain about it!! I don’t know what your daily schedule is like but we should definitely have lunch one day soon. My office has a restuarant below it with excellant soup and homemade pie. It’s a wonder I don’t weigh 500 lbs! :)

  33. Tanya says:

    I SWEAR I did not mean looney . . . I ment lonely!!! LOL

  34. Jenny L. says:

    < ![CDATA[I can relate. Hanging around with my kids all day is wonderful, but I do like to talk to an adult once in a while. We are suffering through the flu bug too, or I should say I am. I told my husband he is on his own tonight.

    YOur cards and layouts are beautiful!]]>

  35. Deena says:

    < ![CDATA[I hope your plan works for you...Making friends as an adult is so difficult!
    Your giveaway is terrific! I want to get my hands on the Epic 6 letterpress stuff sometime soon.]]>

  36. Tessa says:

    Bonnie doesn’t work at Target anymore?! lol I will have to stop by Walmart and say hi! (she was my favorite too)

  37. Heather says:

    I posted on your post on twopeas, but I wanted to say on here that I totally get how you feel. My husband got out of the Navy this year and I spend the whole time feeling left out. We are homebodies and lazy (though I like your term better). Shopping and the mall play area were my saving grace a lot of times. I hope things start looking up in the friend department.

  38. Cat says:

    I totally understand. The only person I socialize with is my husband. I’ve been off work for about 7 months now, so I don’t have any outside contact with the world except when I go shopping too. I don’t have any “real” friends in the city we live in and we each only have one relative here, but don’t socialize with them – not even on holidays either really. Thankfully, I too have a blog and a nice on-line community that I “hang out” with. Good luck to you on your goals. Oh! and I would love a chance to win some Quikutz stuff. :)

  39. lisa says:

    I totally understand the loneliness. I am a single parent of a teenager. Congrats on the Christmas shopping — haven’t gotten very far on that. I do love my Quickutz and would love to win! Gabe’s pic is darling!

  40. Stephanie says:

    I know exactly what you mean. I’ve really been feeling the shortage of female friends myself lately and it’s been really hard. Happy birthday!

  41. Connie M says:

    < ![CDATA[Love your writing :)

    This silver box is a pretty amazing thing, isn't it? Okay, mine is actually black. But whatever. I was feeling a bit lost last spring. I needed to expand my friendship horizons. I posted on Two Peas looking for women in my area to scrap with. It worked! Lisa and I have been scrapping together most Tuesdays ever since :) I made a terrific new friend and I get to scrapbook more often. What could be better?

    Thanks for offering the giveaway that got me to your blog. I'll add you to my Favorites list and we can be BFF through our silver boxes. Or black boxes. Whatever.

    P.S. My sincere thanks to you and your husband for your service to our country.]]>

  42. M.A. says:

    Best of luck in stepping out of your routine and becoming more social. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day “stuff” of life and overlook friendships.

  43. Tanya Tahir says:

    I can understand your feelings, Leah! Your giveaway is very generous. I don’t think I can use them though – I only have a cuttlebug…

  44. Hope says:

    Please keep us posted on your efforts to Make Friends and Influence People. I’m in the same boat as your are, only I’ve lived in the same place for 14 years and I still have no friends outside of my laptop.

  45. Laura F. says:

    < ![CDATA[Wonderful giveaway!

    If you were in Iowa, I would invite you over for dinner!]]>

  46. Kaleena says:

    I live this post! We moved back to our college town and it’s harder than I thought trying to make friends with people my age in a small town where I didn’t grow up. You inspired me to invite some new friends over! The giveaway is amazing! Happy early birthday!

  47. Tracey F says:

    < ![CDATA[Lou, being an Air Force wife myself, I totally understand what you are going thru. You have a plan though, and I'm confident you'll be making new friends soon. Thanks for the giveaway too!!

    Tracey]]>

  48. Melanie says:

    Love your blog! Thanks for the chance to win!

  49. Deborah says:

    < ![CDATA[I understand the lonely feeling well and I hope it gets better for you! Happy Birthday & thanks for a chance to win!

    ]]>

  50. Lauren S. says:

    The pictures are adorable!!!! I am a (very) young mother of three, the only scrapbooker I know and kinda far away from family…I understand feeling lonely! I hope you find some wonderful new friends. I don’t comment a lot, but I love your blog! Thanks so much for sharing it.

  51. Lauren S. says:

    The pictures are adorable!!!! I am a (very) young mother of three, the only scrapbooker I know and kinda far away from family…I understand feeling lonely! I hope you find some wonderful new friends. I don’t comment a lot, but I love your blog! Thanks so much for sharing it.

  52. Julie Urban says:

    i HAVE no doubt that with a personality like yours you will be enjoying new friends in NO time! Thanks for the chance to win some new toys!!! I ♥ Quickutz!

  53. AngieandSnoopy - Angie says:

    Hi! Remember me, the pea that bought the QK 35mm camera die from you earlier this month for MY birthday! I know what you mean, when my husband died 9 years ago, Instant Messenger, CK Message board and then 2 peas message boards helped me somewhat keep my sanity. We were literally living in the middle of nowhere. Happy Birthday and thanks for the 2nd chance of a birthday present coming from your stash. Hope your plan works!

  54. Ti says:

    Your post really struck home with me. I met my best friend on scrapbook.com – we were both avid collectors of scrapping goodies and would often challenge each other to actually use some of our collections. Unfortunately she passed away almost a year ago unexpectedly. Her husband loaded me up with a large portion of her scrap supplies and its so hard to use things that we bought together or for each other. I have had a hard time since she passed finding my mojo. If you are looking to entertain – what better time then upcoming holidays. Thanks for the chance to win. Off to post on facebook and peruse more of your blog.

  55. Ti says:

    Posted the giveway on my fb page as well.

  56. Peggy Johnson says:

    < ![CDATA[okay, first of all, Gabe is stinkin' ADORABLE!!!! Cute cute pictures.
    I love my QK. I bought it on QVC. I don't have many dies though, except I did get the Sunshine kit when it first came out. I love that font.]]>

  57. Julie Urban says:

    I shared your wonderful blog and creations on my facebook page!

  58. Terri Cox says:

    < ![CDATA[Sometimes there's just no substitute for socializing.I met some friends at my scrapbook store and we have gotten really close. I just know you will find some close friends too. I really like your blog. ps-I love Gabe's dog shirt!

    Thanks, Terri]]>

  59. Melanie Shult says:

    I absolutely love your blog.

  60. Roxanne says:

    First off, what beautiful pics of Gabe. He’s got such gorgeous big blue eyes. When I read your post about being lonely, I thought ‘that’s me!’ I work from home and with me and my dh both being kinda shy, reserved type of people it doesn’t help with meeting new friends. I thought having kids would help and make things easier, but it almost makes it more difficult to find the time. I have lots of aquaintences, but few that are really close, and the bff position is vacant. I think your idea of pushing yourself to invite people over is a great one. I may have to try something like that too. I smiled at your relationship with Bonnie, you probably make her day at work when you chat. Thanks for the chance to win too.

  61. Tara says:

    < ![CDATA[Here I go and move closer to you and you up and move away :P lol Serves you right! Ha ha.

    I know exactly how you feel. With little kids at home and no job, I latch on to ANY human contact (except for the creepy door-to-door guys). I even tried the dinner-party thing (I LOVE LOVE LOVE hosting dinner parties), but most of the time everybody bails :( At this point, I get all of my adult contact from my son's kindergarten teacher and Relief Society weekday meetings (or whatever the heck they call it now). I haven't missed one in a year now. I feel like such a leech sometimes though. Which is weird for me, because I used to be the most social person on the planet. Still recovering from being locked up for 8 years (co-dependantly married to a jerk, NOT prison for those who don't know!).

    Funny thing: I was totally thinking yesterday how much I would love a die cut machine. I've been using the one at the elementary school for the class projects, but it is OLD! Still makes me wish I had one :)]]>

  62. Kelly C says:

    I completely understand the need to go out for adult conversation! Hope you have a wonderful birthday and thanks for the opportunity!

  63. Laura-Lee says:

    Your so honest and funny! Thanks for sharing….and the great prize pack too!

  64. Tara says:

    Posted on FB too. Hopefully soon you will have more silver-boxed friends to talk to :D

  65. Evelyn says:

    I know how you feel. We are military too and all my friends have moved and left me. It is hard to make new friends when you have been somewhere for 2 years and did not take the time to get to know them before. Thanks for the awesome giveaway!! I love your blog! Happy Birthday!

  66. janell james says:

    what a cute fall pic! he is ADORABLE!!! happy birthday!

  67. Pam says:

    I’m glad to hear everyone is on the mend in your household and you’ve got a good start on your Christmas shopping. Happy birthday!

  68. carol in seattle :) says:

    < ![CDATA[Wait a minute - Are you me???

    I love your plan to meet people, I'm gonna have to copy you!]]>

  69. K says:

    < ![CDATA[I moved 7 yrs ago after living in one place all my married life. Upon arriving in this new state I have found most people either have their friendships already est or are working and their lives are already busy enough without adding someone to it.
    We had several couples over for supper, but it just got easier to deal with being by myself. So I think I can understand where you are coming from.
    I would love to be entered into the quickutz. I don't have one but have a cuttlebug. Will that work?]]>

  70. Ragnhild McAllister says:

    < ![CDATA[I can relate to some of the things that you are talking about. You seem like such a wonderful person - you can make friends wherever you go. I hope you get to have some friends over for dinner soon. Maybe for your birthday?
    Happy birthday to you - I will think of you on the 6th.
    Thank you for the opportunity to participate in your giveaway. I love Quickutz. ]]>

  71. Sue says:

    Hi Leah! If I didn’t live halfway around the world I’d invite myself over to your home. :) Those photos of Gabe are so lovely! You’ve got to scrap them. (Another excuse to drop in at the scrap shop. :D

  72. scrapper al says:

    I hope that you enjoy craft night and have some friends over for birthday cake. Perhaps some of the missionary diners will turn into real friends.

  73. Helen says:

    I have been where you are right now. Once you all get over being sick and get in a routine you will make lots of new friends. Just be patient. Good things come to those who wait. Enter my name in your contest. Cute photos of your little one.

  74. Lisa Geraty says:

    Leah, We miss you at our monthly crops out here in VV. I hope you find a group soon. I’m sure now that the flu is flushed out of your house that you can focus on friend making. Good luck :)

  75. Paula G says:

    I can so relate to your longing for girl talk and companionship – I’m right there with you! Wishing you lots of luck with your dinner invites!

  76. Kellee says:

    < ![CDATA[Gabe is adorable!
    I'm out of work due to an injury and don't have any friends...and I live very close to where I've spent my entire life...it will get better!]]>

  77. Lisa Geraty says:

    I just posted your blog link on my FB. ~Lisa

  78. Stephanie A. says:

    It’s my birthday week, too, so Happy Birthday to us! I am so glad to read your post about this. I can be completely antisocial, too, but fail to recognize my own loneliness most of the time. I think I tend to chalk it up to mild depression and use that as an excuse to stay home even more!! Good luck with your dinner parties. I think that is an excellent start!

  79. Becky says:

    I LOVE Quickutz dies. Absolutely love them! Oh, and I didn’t mean to be rude yesterday, happy birthday!

  80. < ![CDATA[I read your post and then I read the comments. Oh, my! There are so many of us lonelies out there. Maybe we, as human beings, are just lonely from time to time. :(

    I am a SAHM and native of Brazil. Don't have any family here and it's really hard to make friends in this little southern town I live in. It seems everyone has family around and really don't need any friends. I am glad that I have my hubby and Jesus.

    I just recently joined a homeschooling co-op group but after a couple of meetings it seems that the co-op is falling apart: people are quitting it for different reasons. :( Oh, well... we can plan but sometimes things don't work out the way we plan.

    I too like my black box. It's like my connection to the outside world. But that too, has its limitations, and a few years back I found out that it can be pretty addictive and deceitful. The contacts through it only are not real, unless it's turned into REAL live relationships.

    So... while new relationships don't happen I will enjoy my hubby and Jesus. :)

    PS I think part of my loneliness happens at this time of the year because of the gloomy winter weather and all the festivities that I know are happening down in Brazil. :) So, I try to look forward to Spring and I count the days to it. :)

    Happy birthday!!!]]>

  81. Lorinda says:

    < ![CDATA[Thanks for your honest post....I can so relate to it! Wish I lived closer...we could be lonely together! he he
    Happy Happy Birthday to you!!!]]>

  82. Amy says:

    I laugh because I’ve done similar things and have felt the same way many times (and I’m not even being constantly uprooted and moved!). I’ve also made that same resolve to have people over more often and something always comes up. Why IS that? Anyway, I applaud you in your efforts to be more social and I wish you a very happy birthday soon! I really enjoy your blog. Your kids are DARLING and your crafting is beautiful!

  83. < ![CDATA[Awww, hugs! You'll meet some new friends soon. You're a deep one and it takes a little time to wade through the shallows to find that connection.
    ps-I'm glad you're in my little silver box, too!]]>

  84. Tanya says:

    Well I totally understand…I am a stay at home mom of almost 20 years with 3 kids..youngest being 12 oldest being 19! Wouldn’t trade it for the world but alot of days just wanted something more! I have spent many a day at the mall just to get some adult interaction! So I hear ya girl….it is also my birthday this week (the 5th) Going away for it to a scrapbooking retreat with the girls, and can’t wait…nothing better then some girl time! Would love to win the Quickutz

  85. Michelle says:

    It’s always hard to move to a new place and start over. I think it’s even more challenging with kids. Have a happy birthday and good luck with your social endeavors.

  86. Benita says:

    < ![CDATA[Oh first of all, Gabe is sooo stinkin´cute, and it looks like so much fun in the leafpile;)
    I love my Epic and would looove to win new dies to play with
    Have a happy birthday!
    hugs
    Nita]]>

  87. Joy says:

    < ![CDATA[Your post touched my heart. First, because I was an AF brat, and truly respect the sacrifice of our military families. Second, I moved 3 years ago, back to the town that I went to HS in and was my dad's last duty station, and still have not found a social group, read that as other ladies that live and breath papercrafting.
    Bless you on your endeavors to find true friends.]]>

  88. Priya says:

    Lots of hugs to you to get over the slump. My wishes in advance for your Birthday. That’s an awesome giveaway. Thanks for the chance to win.

  89. Daleen says:

    < ![CDATA[I totally feel your frustration with the lack of Adult contact. My four kids are in school all day. My friendships seem to not be as strong as they were when we all had young kids. I have so much free time when they are in school, but the afternoons and evenings are busy with their schedules. It's so quiet during the day.

    I can't even seem to give away my free time. I have been volunteering at school. He asked for a two hour block, but he has only had maybe thirty mins of work to do. I ask the office staff or look in help baskets...nothing to do. So I bring a book and read til they are out now.

    My birthday was last month, I recv'd lots of facebook friend wishes, but not one of my 3D friends called, texted or even facebooked me. I am the one who sets up birthday luncheons, shops for the special gift ect. Not one person even wished me Happy Birthday at church or in RS that Sunday and that was the day of my Bday.

    I am an former Navy wife so I get it!

    Happy Birthday!]]>

  90. Joy says:

    How does one go about becoming a follower of your blog?

  91. Amy says:

    I think most of us crafties feel a little left out in the 3d world, just comes with the package. Im a student in a big university where everyone seems to already have friends and sorority sisters. Ill pray for your blues as well as mine tonight. Hope your birthday is wonderful and filled with all the people that are important to you!

  92. Laura says:

    Hi! I’m a first-time poster who found you through Two Peas. Love your blog post and love QK, though I don’t have many dies. I do have “the squeeze,” though, so I’m off to a good start. Hope your birthday is happy and a highly social occasion. Enjoy!

  93. I can totally relate! We PCS’d over 2 years ago and I only have 1 friend that I see regularly. I am a bit anti-social though but would still love to add to my extra super small circle of friends. I only have the QK Squeeze but I have been looking at going bigger very soon….so this would be helpful!

  94. Monique says:

    < ![CDATA[I loved reading your blogpost because it's so recognizable! I think there are lots of people out there feeling lonely, but are afraid to say so. So, good for you to come out and just say it!! And yes, please, start inviting people into your home because I know for sure that they'll love you!! and that they'll be happy to get the chance to get to know you!! Good luck!! and remember we're all here for you!!
    Big hug from The Netherlands!!!!!!! ]]>

  95. Monique says:

    Just shared your give-away on FaceBook! :-)

  96. Marrigje says:

    < ![CDATA[Hi Lou,

    I follow your blog for a while now, and never left a comment. For the same reason you put in this blog. I am shy, and always think why should people (you) want to hear from me.
    The reason that I do comment today, is your last sentence before the birthdayblash.
    Everything you stated here is sooo reconisable (is that even a word?)
    Take care and happy birthday.

    I do love the pictures!

    Regards Marrigje (the Netherlands)]]>

  97. Bethany says:

    Awe, I’ll come be your friend! And you don’t even have to feed me! LOL Great giveaway! I don’t have a quickcutz, but I have a cutttlebug. They would work in that, wouldn’t they?

  98. Jill Green says:

    Oh, Leah, I feel your pain. Although we are not military and have not moved quite with your frequency I have moved WAY too many times. I could so relate to your shopping journeys too. Without a LSS in my area one move I became such an online shopper that even the UPS truck was like satisfying human contact! (Sad, I know.) I always worry about the adjustment on the kids after a move but I seem to put myself last. Keep trying, dear girl. Hold on to the friendships you’ve had from your previous locales too and stay connected with them. They’ll help you. Don’t make the same mistake I did and give them up. I thought that it would be too painful not to have them around so I let them slip away. Some people are in your life forever no matter the distance. You never know what lies ahead. Just stay YOU and try softer. The lunch dates will come, I’m sure of it.

  99. KarenB says:

    Good luck with making some more meaningful connections :) Hope you have a wonderful birthday, and thanks for sharing those cute pics of Gabe!

  100. Roberta says:

    I sure know where you’re coming from. I’m very lonely as well. 3 kids, a husband that works nights and weekends besides his full time job, and very little spending money doesn’t make for an active social life. I’d love for those quickutz dies to come keep me company!

  101. Liz in Mo says:

    I really hope you can make come friends!!! I know how you feel, you are not alone! hang in there.

  102. Pam Spradlin says:

    I was a Marine Corps wife…oh so many years ago! Every move, I remember trying to find people that we had been stationed with before so I would feel like our new housing would feel just a little bit more like home. But before I knew it, I was making new friends, thank goodness for church and the parks on base. Your story about your Michael’s trips had me laughing…been there, done that! Good luck with your dinner planning and I hope your family stays healthy this time. Happy Birthday.

  103. Pam Spradlin says:

    I have posted your blog address on my facebook account so I am hoping that my scrapbooking friends will send you some love!

  104. Rhonda Baumann says:

    < ![CDATA[Wow - same insight! I work in a small snobby department (for 5 years) and no-one talks here so when my phone rings and someone is on the other line-- even if they are complaining about something - I don't care -- human being conversations!

    Hang in there!!]]>

  105. KellyG says:

    I have had somewhat of the same experience. I was laidoff almost 2 years ago, now I am a SAHM, which is great, but sometimes adult contact is appreciated. Hope things get better! Thanks for the great giveaway!

  106. Megan A says:

    I dont have a quickkutz but I think it is great that you are doing giveaways for YOUR birthday!

  107. sandra m. says:

    Leah, i too can relate! I am very socially awkward/shy, but found most of my new friends at the park or school (moms of my kids friends) takes a while, but i found they are just as starved for attention as i was. hope something works out for you soon, you are too funny (& fun) to not to share with someone. invite a friend from school and their parent over, the kids can be the conversation starters!

  108. Gloria says:

    You have certainly touched my heart this morning! I have so many of the same problems along with a hearing loss that has made me become much too reclusive. My husband loves to entertain, and I used to love it, too. Now it has become difficult for me because I lose so much of the conversation in a crowd. BUT yesterday the young couple two houses down walked down. Had never met them but she and I hit it off immediately. She loves to scrapbook; so do I. She loves to sew little girl clothes; so do I. She’s the same age as my son (34) but the age gap didn’t seem to matter. Plus they have an adorable little girl who I fell in love with. I’m so happy and thankful this morning for the possiblility of doing some scrapping and fun things with this young woman. Do you think it’s possible for an older woman and a young mother to become friends? I do and am thrilled with the prospect. She is also a SAHM. Didn’t intend to write a book but there it is.

  109. Janni says:

    < ![CDATA[I can totally relate to your state of loneliness, especially as I have been the unwell person in our household. I have been able to help at my son's Kindergarten class to get a little bit of human contact, but a lot of that has been little human contact. Not quite the same thing....I hope now that you and your family are feeling better you will be able to make some new friends.
    ]]>

  110. Cindy d says:

    I don’t know how you military spouses do this. We aren’t military but live in a military community (the same one you just left, I believe) and have watched good friends leave one by one. It is heartbreaking; I can only imagine how much harder it would be to be the ones leaving instead of the ones staying. I hope you find your close friends soon- they’re definitely out there, just a matter of finding them.

  111. < ![CDATA[I'm sure you won't be lonely for long. You have such a great talent for communicating. I loved reading your post and getting to know the Walmart lady :)

    PS. Gabe is just the cutest! ]]>

  112. Ana M says:

    I understand about being lonely and antisocial. I too am guilty of this. I enjoyed reading your blog and hope you have a wonderful birthday!

  113. carissaH says:

    I totally know your lonely feeling. We’ve been here 4 years and I still go to Michael’s and Target for “socializing”. I hope your plan works! Thanks for the opportunity to win! Happy Birthday!!

  114. Jennie says:

    It’s so hard to put yourself “out there” ….you would think as we get older it get easier but it so doesn’t. Have a great birthday! Your work is wonderful!!!

  115. sherri says:

    Just look at what your honesty and humility did…it made the world a little smaller for so many. Thanks for doing that for us Leah. I get it too. The year I was laid off, moved to a new neighbourhood, and had my 3rd baby (15 months after my 2nd, and this all happened with in 30 days) was an incredibly difficult one for. I believe it even changed my personality. The lonelier I became, the harder it was to put myself out there. It takes time, and practice, but it’s totally worth the effort. We were made for community so we can’t help but want to find it. Bless you as you pursue relationship. I know those with whom you come into contact are truly blessed to have spent time with you, even if it is at a store while you’re shopping, and not at your local coffee shop over a caffeinated treat.

  116. Jessica Mason says:

    He is so cute playing in the leaves. Thanks for the chance to win

  117. Lynn Cecil says:

    Yes, Gabe is cute!! You guys sound like us. We are retired and love each other more than ever and are perfectly contented with our two-person life. I go out to shop about every 3 weeks for a people break but hubby is content in his small shop designing and building electronic “stuff”. I suppose we do make up for the two-person life a bit with the four months we spend in a campground in western Montana in the summers…always anxious to get there and always anxious to get back home…perfect world, ours.

  118. karina says:

    I religously read your blog everyother day. It is funny and histerical at the same time. I used to belong to a quick kutz club in St. Petersburgh, FL (my previous hometown) a year ago. I do really miss it. I would love to win the giveaway!

  119. Dawn says:

    I can tell you how many dinners that I have invited friends to…but I refuse to post it on the world wide web!! I love people…most of the time and love books, computers and sometimes the tv the best… Poor dh…he’ll talk your ear off!!

  120. Kris says:

    I work in an office by myself most of the week, so I really cherish the day and 1/2 when I have a female coworker here. We don’t get too much done on those days. I sure am glad to have your blog to keep me company the rest of the week. Gabe is just the cutest!

  121. Kristy says:

    I found your blog via sweet Zarah and can totally relate. My DH is definitely someone that would be categorised as antisocial and I literally DRAG him to any place we do go which means going is few and VERY far between :/ I moved from my home to be with him and left my friends behind in the process. I never realized how hard it is to make friends but trying can be fun :) I hope the dinner plans work out as it sounds like a great idea. Happy Birthday to you!

  122. Julie says:

    Happy, happy birthday, girl! Hope you are feeling better as well. i miss you in the Bay Area!! It’s nice to follow you here though. thanks!

  123. Kirsten Varga says:

    < ![CDATA[I completely understand your situation! My husband is always asking me why we never invite people over. Well, our house is a bit of a fixer-upper and I am embarrassed to have people see that. But I took a leap and invited a cute family over for a BBQ picnic so we can enjoy our pretty backyard. See? Miracles can happen!!!
    And, Happy Birthday!]]>

  124. Renee says:

    (((HUGS))) Sounds like you need them, well ok what you really need is some adult conversation. Been there and done that myself once or twice. Although my usually fall from grace is the grocery store. I mean then at least we can eat the stuff I’m buying rather than just adding to my scrap stash and feeling guilty about it sitting there and me not using it. On the flip side if you are ever in FL stop by for coffee and idle chit chat. ps. Skype is your friend. With a minimal investment ($20-30 for a webcam) you can talk to anyone anywhere for free right from the comfort of your computer screen. ;)

  125. Cecilia says:

    I bet you will have lots of new friends before you know it!!!

  126. LArnold says:

    You are right. Gabe is really cute. My daughter told me to check out this blog because she knew I liked scrapbooking and she liked your cute kids.

  127. Jennifer says:

    Oh girl…I know I say this all the time, but oh how I can relate! It’s always that way at first (well except for our last assignment, I hit it right off with neighborhood friends) and it’s so hard…I’m slowly coming into my niche here and you will too of course. Have a great birthday! HOw nice of you to host a QK giveaway…I’d love to win. :)

  128. Tere says:

    < ![CDATA[I love the way you express your feelings. Sometimes I feel the same... actually not just sometimes... a lot of times!!!
    One of my resolutions was (and I haven't done it) is to visit the ladies from our branch that live close to my house. Somedays I'm in so much need of having an dault conversation during the day, but in person, not online or on the phone... I need to get out of my "cave" more often!

    Thank You Leah, fot the chance of winning this fabulous prize.]]>

  129. Cathy K. says:

    I really understand how you feel, I dislike having to make new connections. It’s not that I’m not friendly, just cautious and shy in new situations. I can’t imagine living a military lifestyle where I couldn’t be in control of the where and when. Thanks to Chris and your family for your dedicated service.

  130. andrea says:

    sometimes i make up reasons to go to the commissary because there is a bagger there who helped me one time when i about passed out thanks to pregnancy. she doesn’t really speak english, but she at least recognizes me and says something unintelligible to me. and that’s nice. making – and keeping – friends is so hard. it’s so much easier to stay home. and talk back to the radio.

  131. Sanisi says:

    My favorite thing when Ian was at Uni: we would get all the YSA from church and play games once a week (as FHE). Dinner and games are what Ian and I love to do with friends.

  132. Nina C says:

    Wow, I will probably get lost in all of the posts, but I wanted to let you know that I have felt exactly like you do now. I did a lot of what you did. I signed up for crafts, play dates at the park, activities, etc. Sometimes it makes me wonder how many women out there are desperate for a friend and wishing they could find someone. If only we could find each other we would be just what we both need, a true friend. *Sigh*

  133. Victoria says:

    < ![CDATA[Oooh...been there, done that! It's tough moving. Hang in there though!

    I would love to win some QK goodies - I've lusted after some for years. :)]]>

  134. Victoria says:

    Shared your giveaways on facebook!

  135. Victoria says:

    Blogged! vjlau.blogspot.com

  136. laura says:

    < ![CDATA[boo, being lonely sucks. my closest good friend lives an hour away and with three kids and her two kids and activities we rarely get face-time.

    and i'm certain that's NOTHING compared to moving to a new state.]]>

  137. Colleen says:

    I’m lucky enough that when I graduated college I moved to an area where a handful of my friends were. I’m hours away from family and my BFF, but the internet makes it easier. At least the internet/facebook/texting keep you in close enough contact that when you DO get to get together it’s like no time has passed at all.

  138. Michelle says:

    I feel your pain… as a stay at home mom it is nice just to get out of the house and shop to have “adult” conversation!! :) Cute pics of Gabe!! And I am lovin’ all the cool birthday giveaways!! You Rock!

  139. Laurie S says:

    As always when reading your blog I feel like you speaking my own thoughts. I run a daycare out of my home and so the human contact I get is the 4 and under variety. Some days I find myself shouting additional stories out the door at their poor parents as they try to get in their cars. I’m hoping they understand it’s just so nice to spend a little time with an adult. On that note, love quickutz and would love to win.

  140. Kara says:

    < ![CDATA[Leah, I hope you are feeling lots better, inside and out.
    And, we'd love to see you around Altered Art anytime.
    Hugs. ]]>

  141. Cat says:

    Just wanted to post again to let you know that I posted on my facebook account about your drawing for the Quickutz stuff. :) Here’s a link to the post: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001329094373

  142. Cool giveaway! My son played with leaves last year when he was just about one year old. Well, he was more interested in eating them, but he technically did “play” with them to get them into his mouth. Now that I learned my wonderful friends called the scorpions live under piles of leaves in the great state of Oklahoma, I’m staying far away from leaf piles. The husband can deal with the leaves this year. :)

  143. Monica Blain says:

    Happy birthday! So sweet of you to GIVE a gift on your bday. And it’s an awesome one!

  144. Selena says:

    Oh I have so been there girl, so know you are not alone. Isn’t cyber world wonderful?

  145. M.-C. says:

    Gabe is adorable!! I hope you find some wonderful people in your life very soon!

  146. LG says:

    I wish I live nearby. Im sure Hannah and Gabe will be such great friends since they are almost the same age. We can scrap a lot too :D

  147. Milena says:

    I know the feeling…my boyfriend & I are normally too tired after work to go out anywhere & since our apartment is tiny we don’t want to invite anyone over because we only have two chairs in the kitchen..I keep telling myself it’ll all change when we buy a house!

  148. Scoobie/Hiilde says:

    < ![CDATA[When we moved here ten years ago, we didn't know anybody! M was just eight months old and it was raining every day for three months - it was the worst late summer ever. We went dog walking in the woods every day - but never met any one. I was so hungry for adult contact that I signed up as a Tupperware consultant just to meet somebody during the week. and I did good :-)

    Hubby joined us during our walks in the weekends, and we would then meet people, not foxes and deers only. Our neighbours are actually the sweetest persons on earth, and we found ourself at home quickly.

    It took a while to find people we could call real friends, but I'm NOT moving away from this area, that is for sure!

    So I know how it feels to feel alone and without friends in a strange environment. Hang in there, you will find them!]]>

  149. Scoobie/Hiilde says:

    PS. I shared the link to your blog on FB :-) Off course :-)

  150. nitasha says:

    Absolutely love this post! The part about being two steps shy of autistic had me ROFL! Of course, it stinks to be lonely, but it’s good to see your sense of humor about it! Oh, and I don’t own a quickutz, but just had to let you know I really enjoyed this post!

  151. Agamemnonsmom says:

    I know exactly what you mean! I’m working on it too.

  152. Michelle P says:

    Loved your post-it’s so true for so many of us! Happy Birthday week!

  153. Annette P says:

    I’ve been following your blog for a couple or few years now. :) I’ve been a SAHM before and know what it’s like to need adult conversation. Hope your plan to get to know more people works out for you. Hope you have a wonderful birthday!

  154. Casey Lu says:

    Leah, I feel your pain only my kids haven’t been sick. I haven’t had the nerve to go out and meet people and make friends. Over the last couple two years I have become a huge introvert and haven’t gotten myself out nearly as often as I should. When I do get around people, I get so nervous I start skipping my words…it is rather embarrassing! I do make the effort to help those around me but just hanging out is hard but I am also tired of being lonely. Hope things are going well and happy birthday!!! Oh and I don’t own a Quickcuts machine other than a Silhouette.

  155. Mom2Seven says:

    < ![CDATA[I understand the lack of human contact, too. I get too much of it at home, homeschooling seven kids, but talking to other adults is so nice! I've actually gone to craft night with my own project when nothing there seemed worth my time. Others look jealously on wondering why they signed up for something they will never finish--and I am finishing something I really want to do. Does that make sense?

    Anyway, enjoy your time socializing and if I win the prize, pass it on to the next person. I admire your scrapbooking talents, but such talents are not mine. I'm glad you and your kids are feeling better. ]]>

  156. Irene says:

    < ![CDATA[Why do I visit your blog?
    1. You have a wonderful way with words.
    2. You take the most amazing photos.
    3. You have awesome giveaways.
    4. You are so inspiring.

    I would be beside myself if I won this prize. Might even fly over from Australia and collect it myself, over a cup of coffee of cause.]]>

  157. Brenda A. says:

    Oooh… love love love Quickutz! What a great giveaway!

  158. karen q says:

    < ![CDATA[I think I would qualify as anti-social. I am so busy with my immediate family and work that I don't have time for much else. I am afraid that in a few years when I retire, I won't have a life. Moving frequently is the pits and I wish you luck in making lasting relationships.
    Your little guy is the cutest.]]>

  159. Le Raskin says:

    I love your posts! This one in particular is hilarious, probably because it strikes home so much. I feel like I’m anti-social sometimes…but that’s what happens when life gets in the way. Just remember to make time for yourself (I don’t really see what’s wrong with making $3 trips to Michaels). Thanks for the chance at the goodies! I don’t have an Epic or Quickutz or anything like that so that would be fun to play with!

  160. KimR says:

    {{{HUGS}}} Leah, your two sound just like Dh and myself! LOL We two really prefer to be home, just the two of us with our kitties most of the time–but then I SOOO miss companionship as well! Sadly, we moved away from our families 15 years ago! I had visions of entertaining–having a family,etc…things didn’t turn out quite like we expected. Yet I also struggle with being so nervous when i am hostessing! (I guess doing it more often might help with that!) Good luck–I hope everyone stays healthy so you can work on those new friendships! :)

  161. It is funny but I was lamenting in my mind that my life has gotten so out of wack in the last four years and I miss having dinner parties and an annual open house. I am trying to get my house in order now so that I can start doing this again for the holiday season. Best of luck in your attempt to broaden your social circle.

  162. Michelle says:

    I completely understand how you are feeling. So funny reading this, as I was just thinking about pretty much the same thing the other day. We moved into our house 6 years ago. It did not really turn out how we had hoped moving into this brand new neighborhood. I just don’t feel like I fit in here. It has been very hard to make new friends. Our family’s are not really involved… long story! What I would give for some good friends!!! I do the same as you talking the ears off the cashiers and anyone who wants to talk!! I too am tired of being lonely. I hope all is well and everyone is healthy!! Happy Birthday!! Gabe is just adorable!!!! :)

  163. Dawn W. says:

    Your post inspired me and cracked me up all at once. I am one of the “not so social ones” myself so I can completely relate. Happy Birthday. LOVE the photos.

  164. < ![CDATA[fUN GIVEAWAY .. ME I am a school teacher so I see kids all days and have contact it's 30 years for me.. Thanks for the giveaway....
    Fun and exciting I'm glad I got referred here..
    No one sells QK around here anymore lol.]]>

  165. manders says:

    Ahhh well Happy Birthday Month mine is November too.. I work with plenty of people each day and go to school so I am always surrounded by folks but I am lonely at home because no internet and soon to live by myself.. So I am hoping that Mom will help me set up a scrap space in my room so that that I can be more creative… and I won’t be lonely I’ll talkt o my papers and crafts.. cuz I still won’t have internet at home.

  166. < ![CDATA[Quickutz yay not so many peope carry it only on line because we are getting to the point of No Lss unfortunately here in the local area only a couple and one is closed Sun - Mon and well they still don't carry Quickutz the one big store just went out of biz so so sad that's for sure... I wish the best of luck to those who are ...
    Lonely if that were the case unfortunately I think two years at home with no one and just my internet i'd be good to go lol....
    If I didn't have internet I would go crazy......
    Happy early birthday to you.]]>

  167. Angela says:

    Yaay, so many great contests! I must say it’s a really nice birthday-bash indeed :) And of course I’d love to join this contest too since I just love the Quickutz producst as well :-)

  168. Angela says:

    < ![CDATA[I just shared your giveaways on Facebook too :-)
    Happy Birthday!]]>

  169. Heather says:

    I can relate :) I think I am the chattiest person at the bus stop because there are actual adults there that I can talk to. I have 3 kids & work from home… Wish we could meet up with other people for dinners etc. but it seems with everyone’s busy schedules it’s hard to manage.

  170. Gina H says:

    Great photo. Thanks for the chance to win the Quickutz!

  171. Gail S. says:

    Thinking of you and your birthday coming up!! Love November – the month of giving thanks :)

  172. KarenB says:

    Popping by again with a second comment to let you know I posted on my blog sidebar. Wow, there are so many more comments now, and I hope you’re feeling not-so-lonely. I’d love to visit you if I didn’t live so far away :)

  173. Susie says:

    I know the feeling, we aren’t military but we have moved so many times, I have stopped making friends because I know I will just move away. I am thankful for my children to keep me busy.

  174. Rachel says:

    < ![CDATA[Gorgeous Gabe pictures! I fear being in a new area when Ry and I get married because I find it hard to make new friends that I can share enriching life moments with. I know that as you get involved in your church and start attending the extra activities- friends will come. How could they not like you? I'm thankful for my internet friends as well- I have more friends in my computer than I have in real life- but that's okay too!

    Thanks for the chance to win- I'd love to have this cutting system! ]]>

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