Life as Lou

If This Kid Could Talk

  • May 22, 2012 4:02 pm

Why is it that dollies are so much more fun when they're naked?

This morning I took Gabriel in to the school district’s early intervention program to have his initial assessment.  Since he is quite speech delayed (We are three for three, people. My kids don’t talk until they start Kindergarten), we are hoping this gets him into the fabulous, free preschool they run in our school district.  It is called Carousel and from what I hear it is a really free great preschool that helps kids with developmental delays. Also, may I mention again the fact that all of these services are rendered completely free? Why yes, they are. Isn’t that great?

I think after months and months of listening to a non-communicative child tantrum five times a day because he lacks the ability to tell me what he wants, I deserve free preschool. Also a parade, very expensive jewelry and quite possibly a padded room. I’ve been dealing with these kinds of tantrums for about 9 years now since my preschoolers don’t talk. THEY SCREAM.  My sanity is questionable at this point.

Anyway, I am feeling slightly guilty because I am hoping that he stays sufficiently non-communicative before his re-assessment in the fall, and that he doesn’t pull ahead to where he is borderline and won’t qualify for services and then gets left in the dust because he’s behind, but not so behind to be worthy of help. Every time I find myself saying, “yes, Gabe that’s a fork, can you say fork?” Part of me is telling myself to shut up because I’m undermining a good thing. On a positive note, the really adorable woman who worked with Gabe seemed pretty sold on him needing the communication help, so I am hopeful.

Gabe has had many tantrums lately. It is hitting the point where I don’t even try to make him happy half the time. You see, if we go to the store and he asks for a treat, he will yell if he doesn’t get it.  But, if he is given a treat, he will find something else to scream about.  Perhaps it will be a request for a second treat, or a disapproval about the way I opened the first treat.  More than likely it is the fact that I made him put on pants five hours earlier and he is just now remembering that he scheduled a tantrum on that topic for later since he was already screaming about the shirt I was pulling over his head, and hey! the commissary is as good a place as any to commence with the screaming and flailing.

Sometimes I know why he is yelling.  Most of the time, after many guesses, I fail to understand why he is upset, and so I just chalk it up to an existential need to express his true feelings to the universe. If the tantrums don’t stop soon, I may join him.

Right now Gabe is sitting in the living room watching an animated version of George Orwell’s Animal Farm. I kid you not. It is part of a collection of old cartoons that his great grandpa gave him, and happens to be Britain’s first animated feature. Apparently a highly metaphorical exploration of the frustrations born from the corruption of socialist ideals in a revolutionary, cirica 1917 Russia was much more fun than his usual fare of Pixar’s Cars.

If only this child could talk.


  1. amie says:

    My two youngest had speech delays and I didn’t learn until Cameron was 3 that I could have gotten free services IN MY HOME prior to preschool age. You bet that with my third, I was watching and ready to test him as soon as I possibly could. Both got services and free preschool and it was AWESOME. Both tested out right before kindergarten. (incidentally, both are back in Speech something like 90 minutes a month for articulation). It stunk that I needed the services, but I was so grateful those services were available and there for me! Hope Gabe makes it in and improves by leaps and bounds. :)

  2. I did the same thing with my son! And we did an initial meeting with the preschool here (also free), and I distinctly remember the class teacher continuously saying, “I hope he qualifies! I can’t wait to work with him!” and I always thought it was funny because she was essentially saying she hoped he made NO progress over the summer. Needless to say, he didn’t…and she’s had her hands on him since last October. My son has a genetic disorder called Velo Cardio Facial Syndrome, where a chunk of the 22nd chromosome is missing. A big part of it is low muscle tone, and you just never realize that the tongue is one huge muscle! So his ability to make sounds is extremely lacking. In fact, he’s 3.5 now and he only has a few words (most of which don’t actually sound like the “real” words). We get to continue with the preschool next year before the military moves us somewhere, so I’m glad we have another year of instruction just in case where we go doesn’t have the same type of program. They also have an “Extended School Year” option here, and he’ll go throughout the summer for shorter sessions with his teacher and all his therapists. So six weeks out of the summer I will get very short tantrum-free breaks three times a week. I’m high-fiving myself right now in anticipation, since tomorrow is the (gulp) last day of the regular school year. Eeeeek!

  3. Sanisi says:

    I’m still surprised you didn’t do signing with any if your kids. I’d go crazy with screamers; Myles is so non-vocal he doesn’t even scream.

  4. Druceal says:

    My friend had a non-verbal child and she gave her B-12 shots. She believes with out a doubt that is what helped her talk. I believe her I heard her daughter all of a sudden talking in full sentences. If you would like more info on this. I can get it for you. (PS she did get the info from her DAN doctor.)

  5. Priya Venkat says:

    It certainly can be frustrating when we as mothers cannot understand what our child is trying to tell us. So for your sake I’ll pray that he is able to communicate sooner rather than later.

  6. Nina C says:

    I hope you figure out what is going on soon. It was such a relief to us to find out why Cassie was screaming all the time (even though she could talk). I hope you get your answers soon too!

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